I’ve been back in Canada for exactly two weeks, though I have only been at my home for one of them. Almost immediately, I had to move not too far away but far enough for summer work, and it was still a bit jarring so soon after coming home. I’m not sure what I expected to change when I stepped on Canadian soil again, but mentality, I felt like I hadn’t been gone at all. Now that may sound different that what I say later on in this post, but walking up to my family at the arrivals gate and driving home, it really felt like I had only left yesterday. It was a typical late spring day, one that I had seen many times before, and for a second I feared the last five months would vanish out of my mentality for coming back to familiarity.
Fortunately, I didn’t go through a reverse culture shock, which means you get so used to a lifestyle in a foreign country that when you’re home again, it’s almost the same difficulty to get used to life as it was when you first went away – probably the easiest way I can describe that phenomenon. I learned Canadian culture is actually not as Americanized as we think, at least in the areas I’ve lived. We still hold British and slight European traditions close to our hearts, more than we realize. Going away has actually made me more proud to be a Canadian when in fact I left to become more ‘worldly’. Home is where the heart is, and nothing rings more truly to that than learning exactly what I loved about home.
I like to think that I also helped a few others understand my country as much as I asked questions about theirs; studying abroad is all about give and take with cultural interactions, and I didn’t realize how much people would want to know about where I came from. At one point, I was Google-Earthing my house and street for my housemate to show him our suburbia versus an English-style one. Who would’ve thought I would be showing off my house, even my old cars, just to show off a bit of Canada instead of the vast national parks, hockey montages or Heritage Minutes that Canadians think of as our highlights?
*All of those videos and pictures were played many times as well!
It wasn’t just all about going off on adventures either, though I did learn that I could be a very self-sufficient person if I had to be. I’m a person who enjoys school, and even though I didn’t get to connect with as many native students as I thought I would, time in the classrooms and seminar rooms was still very enjoyable. I was happy to be in classes not taught in my university, or many other universities in Canada except a handful. I learned how the North American system is much more intensive than the British, and that’s not necessarily a good thing; I don’t think I would be able to have as much social time as I did in England, unless I wanted to fail most of my classes. Yes, university is about gaining knowledge and hopefully usable skills for your career, but is it really worth being burned out after a year to do so? Arguably, the British system is much more self-guided than what I’m used to, but I still got by pretty well AND travelled the breadth of the country on my days off. Can’t be that bad to have some free time, eh?
Now on to the more serious reflections: before I left, everyone told me to travel when you’re young and have no attachments, which I fully took advantage of in the last few months. Even so, I don’t think this experience should be limited to your gap year or unburdened early twenties. Putting your ‘life’ (as in a stable lifestyle) on hold for a few weeks is much harder as you settle into it more, though I now feel you shouldn’t need to settle. Life is not about what career you can strive to, how amazing your grades are, how well-off your family is with a good job; it’s about excitement, newness, and happiness.
This is probably the key thing I picked up on my time away, that it will not be my last great adventure before settling into a 9-5 family life. So many people I know say they can’t do the things they want to because of their schedules, lack of money, etc., but if you really want to do something, and it may not be travelling but could be any hobby, you have to put the effort into making it reality. There are sacrifices that have to be made, like saying goodbye to your friends and family for a while for something amazing like going to England, and at times it will be scary as shit, like being completely lost in a new city first thing in the morning when everyone else is still sleeping, and it can be lonely, or absolutely rivetting.
I’ll end this little batch of enlightenment by saying there’s more to life than what’s comfortable and safe. I took the leap of moving to a foreign country with only two suitcases for a mere five months, and it was possible because I had been meticulously planning it for nearly two years in advance. It didn’t happen overnight, and the experience didn’t end overnight. I’m still getting used to not saying ‘ta’ as thanks or seeing pounds instead of dollar signs, popping down to one of many tea shops for a brew instead searching for the one MAYBE in town, and my bank account is scary to see at the moment, but it was so worth it. I’m planning my next trip right now not because I have a ‘travel-itch’ or want to get away, but because I want those future memories. I don’t want to regret not doing something because of material comfort, and I will probably always call Canada my home, but that doesn’t stop the adventure here and there.
I mean, what’s more awesome than waking up to Edinburgh Castle just down the street? Or the Tower of London visible from your room? If you’re making excuses not to go, really just think, why the fuck not 🙂